I am a person who communicates and defends her boundaries. I am a person who speaks up when I feel like something isn’t right. Annoying as it may be, it’s in the core of my soul to be this way and I’m too old to try to fight it any more. When I am offended…
Be Teachable
So, You Say You’re Unbothered?
People who are unbothered remain unmoved regardless of the chaos surrounding them, very much like a lighthouse in a storm. Tenaja Ansar Seelowe, 8 May 2020 We all like to pretend that situations don’t get under our skin, that the things people say to or about us don’t hurt, that obstacles set in our paths…
Anxiety & COVID-19
I have struggled with Generalized and Social Anxiety as well as Agoraphobia for the whole of my adult life. The struggle is compounded by the fact that it is so difficult for people who do not have these issues to understand what is going on and how they can help. Most people seem to think…
Thankful for the Lessons
As I look at the situations of various people around me, I can’t help but be truly thankful every day for the life that I have lived. The struggles and heartbreaks, consequences of bad decisions I went through when I was much younger, all of it has made me better in some way. I don’t…
Love Me or Leave Me Alone
Learning to accept the things I cannot change. I can’t change anyone’s opinion of me, how they feel about me, what they say/do, etc. I can’t make anyone do anything. I’m not going to change who I am just to try to change the opinion of someone else or vie for their affection/acceptance. I’m a…
Hard Heads Learn Hard Lessons…Eventually
via GIPHY I am notoriously hard-headed. At least once a month, my mom has cause to repeat the saying “You’d argue with a signpost.” To which my usual smart-ass reply is “..a blank signpost… and I’d win.” I take pride in the fact that I think for myself and follow my own path. My opinions…
When Pedestles Fall
You walked in smiling brightlyand asked for a seat at my table.I looked up from my lukewarm solitudeUnsurprised but not sure if I would be ableTo grant you all of the access to my friendship and loveThat you might someday require.Friendships for me, though serious and true,Usually tend to fizzle out, dry up and expire.I…
“Hurt people hurt people” is not an excuse!
We’ve all heard the saying, “Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people.” and I doubt any of us could argue the truth of the statement. Unfortunately, some people chose to hide behind the saying and use it as an excuse to treat people badly. The statement is not and was never meant to be…
SLiens, Please Stop!!
As the year 2020 approaches, I wanted to give you all my list of things we as SLiens (members of Second Life for those of you who are unfamiliar), really REALLY need to leave behind and allow to die with 2019. 1. Fighting over muthafuggas you’ve never actually met in person. Why in the entire…
Scream From The Rooftops!!
I keep seeing these posts on Facebook telling people to keep their successes to themselves, don’t tell anyone what you’re working on so that they can’t ruin it, etc.. I think that is complete bullshit!! I think we should share any and everything that we want to share, especially the things that are exciting, with…
Never Compare Yourself to Others
There will always be something. Something is always going to pop up and knock you on your ass. Sooner or later, something is going to put you so deep in a storm that it feels like you’ll never see sunlight again. You’ll look around and think everyone around you is living such awesome lives and…
What can we, as individuals, do to fight injustice?
I was scrolling through Facebook when I came across this video: , In the comments below the post, someone mentioned that they see injustices like this so often now that they’ve begun feeling desensitized and helpless to do anything about it even though they feel that it is wrong. He asked the question “What can…
Be The Love You Say You Want
Note: In the following post, I use heterosexual pronouns because that is the viewpoint from which I am writing; however, the concept is universal and interchangeable no matter the type of relationship. As women, a lot of times we set ourselves HIGH on a pedestal as a prize to be won, a goal for whom…
Don’t Look Back
It finally happened. You knew it was coming, in fact, part of you has been anticipating it for a long while. Now it’s here. The relationship is over. The camel’s back is broken. You’ve parted ways. You’re done, your partner is done….. now what? During the first few weeks and months, it can be extremely…
