How many times have you read or heard someone say, “If you do/are (insert random action/trait here), then your lover will stay/be faithful.” or “A man/woman will change for the right person.”? I get annoyed when I see/hear comments like these for a few reasons: They’re flat-out lies. They imply that the impetus to control…
You have to choose to allow the world to swallow you up because ANY level of resistance, even the slightest thought, is too much for the world to overcome. Read that again.
This week has been a particularly hard week for me emotionally. Those of you who know me, know that I am a very open person. I don’t mind sharing the things that I go through, no matter how hard. In fact, I feel like it’s important for people to share because we never know how…
There are many types of abuse and all of them are horrific but emotional abuse is quite possibly the worst of all due to its insidious nature. Many victims of emotional abuse don’t even realize that they are being abused until quite a bit of damage has already been done. Likewise, many people who are…
Topic Suggested by BajanBeauty Simone. Thank you! Many of us have parents that are seniors and whose health may be declining. We find ourselves shuttling our parents back and forth to doctor’s appointments in the same way that they used to drop us off to meet our friends at the mall and movie theaters. We…
As defined by Dictionary.com:Authenticity [ aw-then-tis-i-tee, aw-thuhn- ] – Noun– the quality of being authentic; genuineness. Authentic [ aw-then-tik ] – Adjective – not false or copied; genuine; real: – having an origin supported by unquestionable evidence; authenticated; verified: – representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified: –…
This world can be very abusive. With so many struggles and obstacles, life can beat you down and leave you like a puddle on the floor. But even with all of the external struggles that we face on a daily basis, oftentimes our absolute worst enemy can be ourselves. We can allow internal dialogue to…
I am a person who communicates and defends her boundaries. I am a person who speaks up when I feel like something isn’t right. Annoying as it may be, it’s in the core of my soul to be this way and I’m too old to try to fight it any more. When I am offended…
People who are unbothered remain unmoved regardless of the chaos surrounding them, very much like a lighthouse in a storm. Tenaja Ansar Seelowe, 8 May 2020 We all like to pretend that situations don’t get under our skin, that the things people say to or about us don’t hurt, that obstacles set in our paths…
As I look at the situations of various people around me, I can’t help but be truly thankful every day for the life that I have lived. The struggles and heartbreaks, consequences of bad decisions I went through when I was much younger, all of it has made me better in some way. I don’t…
via GIPHY I am notoriously hard-headed. At least once a month, my mom has cause to repeat the saying “You’d argue with a signpost.” To which my usual smart-ass reply is “..a blank signpost… and I’d win.” I take pride in the fact that I think for myself and follow my own path. My opinions…
We’ve all heard the saying, “Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people.” and I doubt any of us could argue the truth of the statement. Unfortunately, some people chose to hide behind the saying and use it as an excuse to treat people badly. The statement is not and was never meant to be…
As the year 2020 approaches, I wanted to give you all my list of things we as SLiens (members of Second Life for those of you who are unfamiliar), really REALLY need to leave behind and allow to die with 2019. 1. Fighting over muthafuggas you’ve never actually met in person. Why in the entire…
There will always be something. Something is always going to pop up and knock you on your ass. Sooner or later, something is going to put you so deep in a storm that it feels like you’ll never see sunlight again. You’ll look around and think everyone around you is living such awesome lives and…
It finally happened. You knew it was coming, in fact, part of you has been anticipating it for a long while. Now it’s here. The relationship is over. The camel’s back is broken. You’ve parted ways. You’re done, your partner is done….. now what? During the first few weeks and months, it can be extremely…
