How many times have you read or heard someone say, “If you do/are (insert random action/trait here), then your lover will stay/be faithful.” or “A man/woman will change for the right person.”? I get annoyed when I see/hear comments like these for a few reasons: They’re flat-out lies. They imply that the impetus to control…
What I dislike most right now are the internal struggles I am having between staying above the bullshit and expressing all the negative things I want to express as well as the struggle between showing how I truly feel and wanting to seem unbothered. My honesty and authenticity are extremely important to me, but lately,…
There are many types of abuse and all of them are horrific but emotional abuse is quite possibly the worst of all due to its insidious nature. Many victims of emotional abuse don’t even realize that they are being abused until quite a bit of damage has already been done. Likewise, many people who are…
I have a LOT of feelings about this particular topic right now. As some of you know, I am in the mourning stages of the break-up of a relationship that lasted for over 5 years so I’m still very much in my feels but I will do my best not to make any of this…
A Poem by Tenaja Ansar
As I look at the situations of various people around me, I can’t help but be truly thankful every day for the life that I have lived. The struggles and heartbreaks, consequences of bad decisions I went through when I was much younger, all of it has made me better in some way. I don’t…
Note: In the following post, I use heterosexual pronouns because that is the viewpoint from which I am writing; however, the concept is universal and interchangeable no matter the type of relationship. As women, a lot of times we set ourselves HIGH on a pedestal as a prize to be won, a goal for whom…
It finally happened. You knew it was coming, in fact, part of you has been anticipating it for a long while. Now it’s here. The relationship is over. The camel’s back is broken. You’ve parted ways. You’re done, your partner is done….. now what? During the first few weeks and months, it can be extremely…
