How many times have you read or heard someone say, “If you do/are (insert random action/trait here), then your lover will stay/be faithful.” or “A man/woman will change for the right person.”? I get annoyed when I see/hear comments like these for a few reasons: They’re flat-out lies. They imply that the impetus to control…
You have to choose to allow the world to swallow you up because ANY level of resistance, even the slightest thought, is too much for the world to overcome. Read that again.
This week has been a particularly hard week for me emotionally. Those of you who know me, know that I am a very open person. I don’t mind sharing the things that I go through, no matter how hard. In fact, I feel like it’s important for people to share because we never know how…
What I dislike most right now are the internal struggles I am having between staying above the bullshit and expressing all the negative things I want to express as well as the struggle between showing how I truly feel and wanting to seem unbothered. My honesty and authenticity are extremely important to me, but lately,…
There are many types of abuse and all of them are horrific but emotional abuse is quite possibly the worst of all due to its insidious nature. Many victims of emotional abuse don’t even realize that they are being abused until quite a bit of damage has already been done. Likewise, many people who are…
Topic Suggested by BajanBeauty Simone. Thank you! Many of us have parents that are seniors and whose health may be declining. We find ourselves shuttling our parents back and forth to doctor’s appointments in the same way that they used to drop us off to meet our friends at the mall and movie theaters. We…
As defined by Dictionary.com:Authenticity [ aw-then-tis-i-tee, aw-thuhn- ] – Noun– the quality of being authentic; genuineness. Authentic [ aw-then-tik ] – Adjective – not false or copied; genuine; real: – having an origin supported by unquestionable evidence; authenticated; verified: – representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified: –…
This world can be very abusive. With so many struggles and obstacles, life can beat you down and leave you like a puddle on the floor. But even with all of the external struggles that we face on a daily basis, oftentimes our absolute worst enemy can be ourselves. We can allow internal dialogue to…
Above is a list of African Americans who have been murdered in the United States at the hands of law enforcement. As you read this list I want you to consider the following: Today is June 23, 2020. At least 6 more unarmed African Americans have been murdered in the United States since this picture…
Today is June 19, 2020, and, more so than in any other year that I can remember, people all over the United States are celebrating the 155th anniversary of Juneteenth. For those of you who are unfamiliar, Juneteenth or Freedom Day as it is sometimes called is a day that commemorates June 19, 1865, when…
I am a person who communicates and defends her boundaries. I am a person who speaks up when I feel like something isn’t right. Annoying as it may be, it’s in the core of my soul to be this way and I’m too old to try to fight it any more. When I am offended…
People who are unbothered remain unmoved regardless of the chaos surrounding them, very much like a lighthouse in a storm. Tenaja Ansar Seelowe, 8 May 2020 We all like to pretend that situations don’t get under our skin, that the things people say to or about us don’t hurt, that obstacles set in our paths…
I have struggled with Generalized and Social Anxiety as well as Agoraphobia for the whole of my adult life. The struggle is compounded by the fact that it is so difficult for people who do not have these issues to understand what is going on and how they can help. Most people seem to think…
Learning to accept the things I cannot change. I can’t change anyone’s opinion of me, how they feel about me, what they say/do, etc. I can’t make anyone do anything. I’m not going to change who I am just to try to change the opinion of someone else or vie for their affection/acceptance. I’m a…
via GIPHY I am notoriously hard-headed. At least once a month, my mom has cause to repeat the saying “You’d argue with a signpost.” To which my usual smart-ass reply is “..a blank signpost… and I’d win.” I take pride in the fact that I think for myself and follow my own path. My opinions…
